NLP Birmingham
By Debbie Williams
Debbie Williams is an accomplished NLP trainer who regularly assists Dr Richard Bandler the co -founder of NLP on many of the NLP practitioner, NLP master practitioner and NLP trainer trainings.
Having helped on over 50 neuro linguistic programming trainings to date, Debbie is a valued member of the NLP assisting team.
In the early days of NLP is was quite often
described as a manipulative tool yet as the creators would state it’s neither
good or bad, it’s the intention of the users – it’s a bit like knives we use
them every day to cut up our food, and they’re very very useful in that context
yet a knife in the hands of a madman can be horrendous.
NLP to create the life you want
So NLP can be used to create the life you want and
to change your emotion or state quite quickly
When Richard Bandler started in the early 70s he noticed that psychology had therapists fighting about who had the correct approach yet none of them failed to produce a single consistent result – so he took a different road, he didn’t look at what went wrong or guessing – he looked at what works no matter how and pretty much if a strategy worked in one situation could it work in another and something that would be deemed as inappropriate could actually be a benefit in another.
For example procrastination – you think about it if you could procrastinate of having that cake yes, yes I’ll have it later or I’ll have it tomorrow that certainly would help with any weight loss goals would it not, he also looked at what good therapists did that helped find solutions for their clients.
NLP Strategies
NLP is not concerned how people process stuff in the past or how they’ll process stuff in the future it’s what they do at this present moment, how do they manifest this problem.
For example I was going to take over from you for a day what do I need to say, imagine and do?
NLP can also illicit a strategy of somebody who knows how to get over that, finding out what did they do and the steps they took to overcome that particular issue.
NLP and Phobias
With phobias Richard noticed the people who had
cured themselves got to a point where they had got so fed up and they
stopped thinking about what actually frightened them.
They looked at themselves
and thought this is ridiculous and this was the first start of the dissociating
from the problem and finding humour in it.
You see if you’re looking for problems you’ll also
ways find them if you continually ask well what will go wrong then it will -
whereas if you ask well what do I need to learn to move on, it starts the brain
to focus on a different outcome.
Richard Bandlers’s NLP changing bad feelings exercise:
Step 1 – think about someone who annoys you,
intimidates or irritates you.
Make an image and see them looking at you in whatever
way they do when bothering you, hear them say what they say and
notice the bad feeling start to happen in your body.
Then take this image and
make it black and white, move it off into the distance and make it much smaller,
1/8 of its size and put a clowns nose on his face, hear him say whatever they say
but hear it in Mickey Mouse’s or Donald Duck’s tonality.
Notice how you
feel now and then distract yourself for a few moments and think of them again,
you’ll still be feeling differently about this person.
NLP for mastery over your mind
Achieving mastery over your mind is about developing
new habits and skills and getting used to mentally running your brain in the way
you want to run it.
Many people’s life can be crippled by traumatic
experiences that really are just continually being played as memories it not
that it was bad enough happening the first time that your brain has to present
it to you over and over again.
As you put the bad memories into the past you can
leave them there for good. One way to overcome a negative relationship is to
stack up all the times they treated you badly and we’ll run that through this
exercise because as we link them together then we’ll take you through thresholds
where it’s a case of never go back, no way. So remember every bad thing that
they did and as we remember them all at once if you played them together back to
back on a movie screen and if you were to watch it over and over again until you
literally get sick of them.
Birmingham NLP Free NLP Recording
Stop worrying and create a wonderful life neuro linguistic programming and hypnosis self help recording.
Full version available from Debbie Williams NLP
